The line between being a mum and a business woman can often be so thin that it becomes blurred or invisible. One minute you are happily being a mum, playing, baking, reading a book, etc and the next you realise you have spent an hour on the computer working on an idea that just popped into your head. When an idea does arise you want to run with it incase it is THE idea that makes you get really noticed and brings in the customers. If you don't work on it then and there you may forget and then it is gone forever. So what happens to your child who you are supposed to be spending time with, do they get stuck in front of the TV or given a new toy with the promise of "I'll be back in a minute"? One thing leads to another and before you know it you look at the clock and I'll be back in a minute has become many many minutes. In a child's mind 1 minute is a very long time, image what half an hour or an hour is like.
Like me you may have a child that can play independently for a long time or with siblings for awhile, before the fights start. So you can "just quickly" hop on the computer and work on something. At times you may take advantage of this, but feel somewhat guilty when you look at the clock and a long period of time has passed.
Some tips I have found helpful when I need to work during the day include:
- Spend as much time together doing things the child loves before saying "Mummy needs to do some work". If they are old enough let them decide how they wish to spend the time whilst you are working.
- If they are able, let them help you. Even if it just something small, to a child being included means so much to them and they love it.
- Set a time limit and stick to it! Use an alarm or ask the child to come and get you when whatever they are doing is finished. Even if you are right in the middle of something, try to finish up when your time is up and leave notes on what you have to next for when you get the chance to return to what you are doing.
- If you keep getting interrupted because the child is bored, find something else for them to do. Explain to them again why you are working and how long you will be. Remind them that if you are given this time to do what you need then you will finish either earlier or on time. Then you will be free to play something they like or something they only do on special occassions.
Of course one day it may work and not the next. Children are little people and they have a mind of their own, which doesn't always fit into what you want! If it really isn't working you may have to give up and try again later or another day. Keep perservering and it will get better.